Things started to spiral out of control long before 2006,
but until then I had been able to find some level ground. From that year
though, nothing seemed to work out.
My parents got divorced. My mother disowned me. I started
university.
My mother disowned me. Wow.
But that’s not what this post is about. I’ll tell you that
story another time…..maybe.
I started university.
Freedom? Yes please.
My whole life, my parents had kept me indoors; no parties, no public
vacation classes, no going to a friend’s house just to hang out. “Read”, they
said. “We’re protecting you.” The only act of rebellion I managed was breaking
my virginity. My dad tried to put him in jail. Another story I might tell
you…or not.
Heartbreak.
That’s what this post is about, heartbreak. Of anyone else,
my parents have broken my heart the most, but again, this post is not about
them. It’s about a boy. Man, I loved that boy and I don’t even know why. He
wasn’t particularly funny or exceptionally brilliant but I loved him anyway.
You can act all tough like you don’t care about love but
you’re not fooling anyone. When that person tells you they don’t feel the same way
anymore, by god, you will be hurt. You will cry, you will fume, you will
over-think things.
It broke me. It broke me. It broke me. I can’t stress that
enough.
It broke me.
To this day, it surprises me just how low I got, I was all
the way down. I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t stand people being
around me. I’d go to the kitchen to get some juice and end up spending hours on
the kitchen floor, crying. I avoided the TV and the radio; what if a love song
came on?
Why was it so difficult to deal with it? I mean, my own
mother had left me, you would think that that little detail would make this
other thing less significant, but no.
For one I wasn’t
expecting it, at all. It was such a slap in the face that I felt dazed. It was
difficult to believe. Two, I loved him, I had put my trust in him, fully and
without hesitation. Three, there was someone new in the picture.
I had been replaced even before I had been dumped! The
things that bit of news did to my self esteem, wow, just wow!! Wasn’t I good
enough? Wasn’t I pretty enough? Smart enough? Funny enough? Sexy enough? It
didn’t help that the girl he left me for was a family friend. Somebody say K.O.
Knocked the fuck out.
I questioned myself so much that it got to that point where
I started blaming myself. If I had done things this way or that, maybe he’d
still be with me. If I had been better….
I lost so much weight I had to buy new clothes. Every time I
saw him with her I died a million times inside. If it’s possible to lose an
appetite that you haven’t had in over 3 months, I lost it. I cried so much that
I made my friends cry too.
I forgot how to smile.
What do you do when the one person who cuts you the deepest
is the only person who can make you smile?
I looked forward to days he’d come and see me. I prayed for
them even. Was I pathetic? Yes, very.
He had broken my heart but I still managed to love him with
every broken, jagged piece.
Fast forward.
He came back.
It was too late, I
didn’t want him.
It’s a funny thing, life.
