"Breaking up and saying that you guys can still be good friends is like having your dog die,but your mum saying you can keep it regardless".
The first part of that quote makes sense to some of you,doesn't it?some of you have been at this point before and others are going through it now.now take a look at the second part.what do you think of it?The thick ones,roll it around in your brains for a bit.Done?Good.Now let's discuss it.it's futlie,it's stupid.The end.
Break-ups are hard and almost everyone has that ONE sob story. Notice how my heading has reduced it all to the toss of a coin?
That's because in a lot of instances it is.People break up all the time,it's life.we argue,we cry,we get over it...eventually.But some people insist on prolonging an already painful journey."We're not together but we can still be good friends" <-----Some will argue that this is possible,it's effective,blah blah blah.Thing is i'm not here to write what you think so zip it :)
I think it's a big mistake to assume that two people can go back to the type of friendship they had before they ever got together.
I won't even lie,i've said it before.But i'll be truthful and tell you that i was just trying to hang on to something that was clearly no longer there.It's that story where one person holds on tight while the other lets go without looking back.
Being strong sometimes means hanging on.I get that,it's true.But it also means seeing a situation for what it really is and deciding to LET GO.I think SELF LOVE plays an important role here.Let's face it,you've been ditched,you're getting no face time (unless of course your ex is using your feelings against you to get some bed play).It may take a while to sink in but you must get to that point where you realize 'No,I DESERVE BETTER'.That's the beginning of the healing process.
"If you can't save your relationship,at least save your pride" !!!
i absolutely agree with you, but i do think that, after both sides have moved on with their lives it is possible to have some sort of friendship.
ReplyDeleteWell..you have a point but i would like to agree with Miss Insomnia. being friends after you both moved on is very possible...
ReplyDeleteyou're totally right.you can be friends,but it's to a degree.nevermind that you've moved on and formed different relationships,you guys can hardly become as close as you were before you hooked up.thanks for the comments :)
ReplyDelete@nanama it is possible. it just depends on how the relationship ended.
ReplyDeletei agree with you nana ama . you cant be friends!!! there is noooooo way. if even you did its either you never realy liked each other .. (like your relationship was a game).... or you guys are just being polite but deep down you want to kill each other or be back with each other....
ReplyDeleteyes,thank you!that's exactly what i was trying to say.
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